I finally finished listening to Becoming. First, let me say that Audiobooks are not for me. I did however, enjoy listening to Michelle read her own book. Have you read the book? If you haven’t, please do! Just when I thought that I couldn’t possibly love her anymore, listening to her in Houston gave me all of the feels! 

Here are 10 takeaways from her book and conversation in Houston that resonated with me as a working mother and wife: 

  1. Michelle is a “box checker.” This trait hit home for me because I’ve been this way almost my entire life. Everything in her life had to be in order. Barack was the total opposite. That’s how it always happens!
  2. We cannot underestimate the role that men play in creating strong women. Fathers are important for daughters. Fathers should hold daughters up high and help set her bar for what she will allow in life.
  3. Michelle was honest and open about the couple seeking marriage counseling since they are #relationshipgoals. She said “You find ways to adapt. If you’re in it forever, there’s really no choice.”
  4. Michelle talked about being a working mom. She numbed her ambition, became more cautious and protective of her time because she had to maintain enough energy for life at home.
  5. Michelle learned through the years of trying to balance her life that it was ok to flip those priorities and care for only our selves for awhile.
  6. Hold true friends close. Michelle hosted “Boot camp” weekends with her friends as a way to take shelter, connect and recharge. “Friendships between women, as any woman will tell you, are built of a thousand small kindnesses… swapped back and forth and over again.”
  7. “Women endure entire lifetimes of these indignities—in the form of catcalls, groping, assault, oppression. These things injure us. They sap our strength. Some of the cuts are so small they’re barely visible. Others are huge and gaping, leaving scars that never heal. Either way, they accumulate. We carry them everywhere, to and from school and work, at home while raising our children, at our places of worship, anytime we try to advance.
  8. “If you don’t get out there and define yourself, you’ll be quickly and inaccurately defined by others.
  9. “For me, becoming isn’t about arriving somewhere or achieving a certain aim. I see it instead as forward motion, a means of evolving, a way to reach continuously toward a better self. The journey doesn’t end.
  10. “It’s not about being perfect. It’s not about where you get yourself in the end. There’s power in allowing yourself to be known and heard, in owning your unique story, in using your authentic voice. And there’s grace in being willing to know and hear others. This, for me, is how we become.”

I am Becoming the best version of myself. Who are you Becoming?